Author: ohsuzan
Date: 2007-03-15 02:22
<<What do you guys do to deal with these guys?>>
I stay away from these folks as much as possible.
But, they do exist. And they exist in every organization that I've ever been involved with -- as conductors, certainly, but also as bosses, as pastors, as cops, as teachers, as coaches, as colleagues, as elected officials: anyplace where you find people who are (or fancy themselves to be) in a role of power vis-a-vis others. They just get off on being mean, or on demeaning others to make themselves feel better, or to show the world who's boss. Some are more subtle than others. Yours doesn't appear to be one of those.
I know it's trite to say, but your conductor's behavior reveals more about
HIM than it does about you. By and large, these are not people who have a lot of ego strength, no matter how talented they might be otherwise. But that is a problem for a psychiatrist or a social worker, not for an employee or a team member or the like.
There's a book you might like -- it's high on the Amazon.com best-sellers list right now, which indicates to me that this sort of boorish behavior is pretty widespread. I bought it for my husband, and he hasn't put it down since he began reading. Because the title is rather unsuitable for mixed company, I'll just link it here and you can check it out.
But, again, don't take it too personally. It's about him more than about you. You just presented him with an irresistable target.
Susan
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