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RE: Don't let it get out of hand!

Author: nzdonald
Date: 2002-07-31 00:11

the teachers who DO form "illicit" or "un-well" relationships with students/ex students usually DO care deeply about their new, younger partner. They imagine that they are in fact doing what is good for the student. They often CAN'T see how their relationship has the potential to hijack normal/healthy socialisation and dominate the development of a younger person.
i know, someone somewhere has to decide what "normal/healthy" is, and will probably decide that "normal" should be different for every different person. Unfortunately, the younger student, impressed and flattered is no better at making this decision than the older teacher- also often flattered and intoxicated with the fabulous feeling that comes from being central to someone elses life.
again- this probably doesn't apply to the relationship described in the original thread. i know a teacher who has been in this situation multiple times in the last few years with students both under and over "age". That he continues to have a career is largely due to others wanting to "wash their hands" of the whole situation and let it rest.
donald

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