Author: bmcgar ★2017
Date: 2009-04-22 04:31
Tony, you've hit it on the head, yet there may be a little more.
She's probably fighting the change because she wants her playing to be hers (to be able to have a skill that most others don't), as you said, but my guess is that she also persists in fighting, and maybe even will fight harder in the future, because, by resisting, she has the power to be the parent (the person in a family structure who makes the rules and who controls the situation) and to watch how, by being passively aggressive, she can get her parents and teacher to get all bent out of shape about something that, for her, doesnt' mean much.
This is normal kid stuff: Kids want powers, test to see if they have powers (and what the nature of those powers are), and push to see how their powers work both to their benefit and detriment. (Bright kids do these things very well, whereas the more passive students--the ones teachers love--are less likely to.)
If you want to let your student own her own playing, and you also want her to stop fighting change, you and her teacher should let it drop for now.
If my guess is correct, if you persist at making such a big deal over this, you'll not only see even more resistance, but you may get to the point at which your student plays her trump card: refuses to play and begins to convince herself that she "hates" playing, thus ending her time with the flute.
FWIW.
B.
(Professionally qualified to make guesses like these.)
Post Edited (2009-04-22 22:00)
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