 The Clarinet BBoard
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Author: Sean (aka unconcerned)
Date: 2000-06-01 12:36
Well, I thought this was a bulletin board to discuss the clarinet and not people's personal problems/relationships! These "Oh, how I hate my Director" postings are like accident scenes - you really don't want to look but your curiosity gets the better of you. Then you read them and you think "Why do these individuals solicit answers to personal problems from people they have never met or know anything about?" Face it, we very rarely know anything about the people who post to this bulletin board. I just returned to the clarinet after a 20 yr hiatus, so I use the advice of posters to better my playing. If their advice does not work, that's no big loss. I would never send a post that deals with a personal matter.
Judging by the subject matter of most of these "personal postings", I would venture a guess that most are sent by young people in their mid to early teens. I think that it is inappropriate for young people to be broadcasting such matters to the world in hopes of finding the right answers. These are things that are best discussed with close friends and family.
So before I get off my soap box, let me just say that although bulletin boards are great places for advice on certain matters, we should be careful of what kind of advice we are seeking. Don't assume that the person responding has your best interests in mind.
I must apologize for my harsh response to the previous post entitled "Update on director" - it was a knee jerk reaction.
Cheers,
Sean
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Author: Nicole Y.
Date: 2000-06-01 22:17
Look okay, if you don't want to respond, please don't. It does have something to do with the clarinet because I and my classmates' skills have drastically fallen with this band director. I had stopped liking to play the clarinet. What do you do when your band class is a study hall? The answer is get involved in the Youth Orchestra if you can and/or get a private teacher if you can afford it. Start your own group. Do whatever it takes. What do you have against some teenagers? Yeah, you can ask close friends and parents but they are IN it. And everyone knows that the people OUTSIDE of a problem see clearer than the people in it. You didn't read my first post about this problem, so of course, you wouldn't care. I am happy this problem resolved itself. And I'm even thinking of staying in band again. The band director that's leaving says he wants my old band director from middle school to teach us. And that would be heaven! No matter what band director comes though, there is probably a 1:10000000000 chance that band will stay a study hall. I don't care what happens, as long as there is a teacher. He could be 100, not see very well, but as long as he could teach, it wouldn't matter.
Ciao,
Nicole
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Author: Sean
Date: 2000-06-02 12:33
This will be my final post on this subject as I am now guilty of shifting the focus of this bulletin board away from clarinet issues. While I did begin my post by scolding people for posting personal problems on this BBS, if you read the rest of my message closely, you will understand why. You see, I am a law librarian by profession and I use the Internet on a daily basis as a research tool. We all know about the less desirbale areas of the Net, what they contain and who frequents them. This BBS is just a click away from these seemier areas. Its this closeness that prompts me to follow my own hard and fast rule of NEVER divulging personal information over the Net. Personal problems give manipulators a "foot in the door", so to speak, if they wish to gain your confidence. I realize that you are a young adult, but it is known that pedophiles will try to find common interst to share with a child in order to gain trust. Who's to say that this can't work with an older individual? CAll me paranoid but in my research as a librarian, I have seen the ugly things that people can do! This, and most BBS's that I frequent, seem to attract a quite friendly and helpful individuals but remember that on the Internet noone knows who you really are!
For the record, I do not dislike teenagers (I was one myself some 20 years ago). I just don't think they should be soliciting total strangers for help on personal matters. You will note that at the end of my last posting I did apologize for my initial reaction.
I realize that this has gone on endlessly and on a topic totally unrelated to clarinets, but I just had to give my 2 cents worth. Strong views I realize, but mine nonetheless.
Sean
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