Klarinet Archive - Posting 000304.txt from 1999/04
From: Roger Garrett <rgarrett@-----.edu>
Subj: Re: [kl] Apologies
Date: Mon, 5 Apr 1999 13:29:25 -0400
At 10:14 AM 4/5/99 -0700, you wrote:
>As the person who stirred up the wood vs plastic debate a few days ago, I
>like to apologize. The debate started out good-natured and educational,
>has morphed once again into something very much darker than the original
>intent. I certainly had no intention of re-opening old wounds, or pitting
>members against one another in mortal combat.
>I should have known better. Now let's get back to marching bands.
Tim (and the list),
As a person who has had to do this before, let me say that you did nothing
wrong. Further, I am as guilty as anyone for letting conversations push my
buttons - something that rests with me - not others.
To the list - I apologize to Tony Pay for saying things out of anger - and
for not taking more time to try to understand his points of view better. I
believe my posts were guilty of what I implied to Mark he was doing - that
of getting personal because he didn't agree with me - so.....to Mark - the
same apology. While I was trying to be diplomatic, quite honestly, the
thing that was going through my mind was that of saying what I wanted but
covering my bases.....which is a waste of listserv bandwidth.
I have already written to Tony privately - and he may never respond to that
- but I told him I would apologize publicly - and I do so without
expectation for anything in return. I keep thinking of Jonathon Winters in
the movie "The Russians are Coming" when he states out of frustration, "We
just HAVE to get organized!" My statement - I just HAVE to get over this
reactive state of mind!
I hope this clears up any misconception from anyone about how I feel about
the entire thing - and how Tim should feel. Keep asking the questions, and
some of us, me primarily, will try to think things through - perhaps more
carefully -before responding!
Professor of Clarinet
Director, Concert Band/Symphonic Winds/Titan Band
Advisor, Recording Studio
Illinois Wesleyan University
Office: (309) 556-3268
Fax: (309) 556-3411
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