Klarinet Archive - Posting 000082.txt from 2006/11

From: Tony Pay <tony.p@-----.org>
Subj: Re: [kl] Re: Disgusted, Need to Vent
Date: Thu, 23 Nov 2006 13:59:50 -0500

On 23 Nov, "thomaswinds" <thomaswinds@-----.net> wrote, in part:

> In protecting our investment, there are ways that we, as parents, can make
> sure kids are self-inspired to practice. And I as a parent have the
> responsibility to teach my son how to be responsible, and follow things
> through.

But you also have to teach him how to decide that sometimes, even though
everyone else wants him to do something, he has to have the strength to be
true to himself and NOT do it -- if he finds in the process that *he* really
doesn't want to do it.

I'm not suggesting that that's true of your son and music, by the way. It's
just that it's an important quality of a person that we need to nurture --
and sometimes it's forgotten.

"Anyway, the reality is that getting what you want is the (relatively) easy
part. It's finding something to want that takes most of the creative effort.

"In order to acquire the skills necessary to create, throughout one's adult
life, goals that one will be happy to work towards, it is essential to have
had repeated experiences of doing that successfully as a child, and quite
poisonous to have had the experience of chronically failing to."

(David Deutsch)

Tony
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