Klarinet Archive - Posting 000474.txt from 2004/11

From: Tony Pay <tony.p@-----.org>
Subj: Re: [kl] Trust
Date: Fri, 12 Nov 2004 19:19:22 -0500

On 13 Nov, kimi <kimi_kimy@-----.com> wrote:

> --- Tony Pay <tony.p@-----.org> wrote:

> > Is she 'not to be trusted', or did she just make a silly mistake, and can
> > be thought to be worthy of our trust from now on?
>
> How can you trust somebody that is sneaky?

Your daughter trusted her (and everyone else) by leaving her clarinet so that
it was possible for it to be interfered with, whilst assuming that no-one
would.

It's clear that the girl then violated her trust, even though she apologised
for doing so.

Now, it's an indubitable truth that when you trust people, you can be
*really* sure that every now and then, someone will violate your trust.

Then, you have a choice. Do you say that you won't trust that person ever
again, because they've shown that they aren't trustworthy? Or, do you say
that they *made a mistake*, sort it out with them, and then renew your trust
of them? And, renew your trust of others?

Your daughter has a choice, just like my son had a choice.

Of course, no-one violated my son's trust -- it was just that he was
persuaded at a very vulnerable moment in his life that *it was wrong and
dangerous* to trust people. It took a long time for him to get out of that,
and it damaged him.

On the whole, I myself trust people. I recommend it. The idea of doing so
may make a big difference in the world. And, actually, I even find that I
trust people that have 'made mistakes' with me more than I trust others, in
general.

Tony
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