Klarinet Archive - Posting 000467.txt from 2004/11

From: Tony Pay <tony.p@-----.org>
Subj: [kl] Trust
Date: Fri, 12 Nov 2004 15:51:09 -0500

On 12 Nov, Oliver Seely <oseely@-----.edu> wrote:

[snip of wise things]

> Kids constantly do insensitive things like you describe. One simply has to
> put one's son or daughter on guard at all times.

I really think that that's the nub of it.

How can we possibly appreciate a world in which wonderful things may happen,
if we're 'on our guard at all times'?

By the way, don't think I don't understand the motive behind what you say.

But I well remember when my younger son, open, happy, creative, trusting the
world, was reduced at the age of 7 or so to a shadow of himself for months,
probably years, by a well-meaning general, heavy lesson in school that
explained why 'you shouldn't talk to strangers'.

He even tried to stop me talking to people in the street.

Without wanting to go into what lay behind *that* lesson, let me ask: what
was so *terribly* wrong about what the girl borrowing the clarinet joint did?

Is she 'not to be trusted', or did she just make a silly mistake, and can be
thought to be worthy of our trust from now on?

What are we prepared to lose, in condemning it so strongly?

Tony
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