Klarinet Archive - Posting 000781.txt from 2001/11

From: "Karl Krelove" <kkrelove@-----.com>
Subj: RE: [kl] Fw: [kl] 7th grader wants to quit
Date: Wed, 28 Nov 2001 19:23:33 -0500

> -----Original Message-----
> From: Alisa Hixon [mailto:ahixon@-----.com]
> Sent: Wednesday, November 28, 2001 6:57 PM
>
> I want my daughter to get to experience things in school I
> didn't. And take
> advantage
> of all it has to offer.
>
Alisa,

Just be careful that "experienc[ing] things in school I didn't" doesn't
become the only reason why you want her to do them. Or at least that it
isn't a rationale you're quoting to her with any consistency. It isn't
really a strong enough reason from her point of view, and it denies (or will
sound as though it denies) her ability to choose interests for herself.
Modern schools offer so much, or try to (sometimes more variety than they
can maintain effectively), that no student can possibly take advantage of
everything that's available. The system is designed to offer choices. By
doing so, it is also designed to force choices. Sometimes kids' choices
would not be ours. What's important is that she choose constructive,
positive learning activities and directions.

More of my advice, worth the same as before...

Karl Krelove

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