Klarinet Archive - Posting 000169.txt from 2001/10

From: Catherine Aday <cmaday@-----.net>
Subj: Re: [kl] clean slate
Date: Mon, 8 Oct 2001 08:10:58 -0400

Good Grief, you are Grown men, with professional jobs.... so GROW UP! Just
want to let you know that you are really making yourselves look bad.

rgarrett@-----.edu wrote:

> This is a very difficult message to write - primarily because I don't want
> to put the List through any more crap. I don't like it any more than Peter
> Randell, Annie, Ian, or anyone else. However............
>
> Tony writes:
> "You can stop what you describe above by dealing with the substantive
> issues that arise on this list. I am prepared to wipe clean the slate
> between myself and Roger."
>
> Sounds like a threat to me. Agree or be held in contempt - and you will
> pay for it...........
>
> Regarding his "offer," it isn't the list's choice. The list, nor anyone
> else, will ever determine for me what Tony Pay has said regarding:
>
> My integrity
> My trustworthiness
> My honesty
> and perhaps as importantly,
> my ability to understand and communicate
>
> Therefore, I submit to the list - that regardless of what Tony Pay tells
> the list or anyone else, he has not told it to ME . Therefore - it is
> moot. What he says is NOT between the list and Tony Pay - it is between
> Tony Pay and me. The list does not determine that - "Gosh - Tony Pay has
> worked a deal with the list to back off as long as it recognizes that it
> has wronged Tony Pay - and in return - Tony Pay will 'wipe the slate clean
> between Roger and [him].'" It's like a bad attorney trying to work a deal
> with opposing counsel.
>
> If Tony Pay has the courage to say it to me - and in the correct way - he
> can wipe the slate clean. If not - it isn't clean........by his
> choice. Let me ask the big question: if someone is NOT wrong - why would
> they offer to "wipe the slate clean" ? Just asking.
>
> All that having been said - if Tony Pay wishes to wipe the slate clean - he
> can begin by admitting that he doesn't know what I think, feel, write, or
> understand. Then he can apologize for assuming that he knows all of
> that. He can even do that privately - as I tried to do with him once -
> work it out. Until then - the slate is not clean - not from my standpoint.
>
> Best wishes - really.........REALLY ,
> Roger Garrett
>
> Clarinet Professor
> Director, Symphonic Winds
> Illinois Wesleyan University
> School of Music
> Bloomington, IL 61702-2900
> Phone: (309) 556-3268
> Fax: (309) 556-3121
>
> "If I were to try to read, much less answer, all the attacks made on me,
> this shop might as well be closed for any other business. I do the very
> best I know how - the very best I can; and I mean to keep doing so until
> the end. If the end brings me out all right, what is said against me won't
> amount to anything. If the end brings me out wrong, 10 angels swearing I
> was right would make no difference."
> -Abraham Lincoln
>
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