Klarinet Archive - Posting 000619.txt from 2001/04

From: "Gene Nibbelin" <gnibbelin@-----.com>
Subj: [kl] Conductor's and Musician's Ego
Date: Thu, 26 Apr 2001 05:04:01 -0400

Roger and Listers -

Roger, I have been waiting for someone to mention ego in this "Revelli"
discussion . Being the possessor of a considerable ego and, where justified
by my knowledge in areas important to me, I have a lot of self confidence
(PC term-"self esteem"). Thus, I feel that this combination enabled me to
function successfully as a senior bank officer and Trust Department head by
leading rather than intimidating, and by respecting my employees and fellow
officers. I was confident in what I was doing and felt no need to
"exercise" my ego by humiliating a subordinate.

A mystery to me concerning the egos of the Revellis of the world is that if
their egos are backed up by self confidence, why do they feel it necessary
to disrespect and humiliate others to build their own already more than
adequate egos? Don't they realize that when they humiliate someone else,
they diminish themselves in the eyes of the observers - the other orchestra
or band members. Motivation by intimidation may be a method, but I'm sure
that most would see this as a self-defeating and inappropriate exercise of
ones ego.

Any psychiatrists or psychologists, (professional or amateur) on the list
care to comment on this?

Gene Nibbelin

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