Klarinet Archive - Posting 000636.txt from 2001/01

From: Gary Truesdail <gir@-----.net>
Subj: Re: [kl] Lelia and the list
Date: Fri, 19 Jan 2001 04:22:10 -0500

Lelia:

You did write a considerable amount of off-subject matter. Didn't you?
Mark did edit your off subject matter. Isn't this part of his job.
Mark may have not edited others off-subject matter. Doesn't he have the right
to select who gets edited and for what reason?

Whether I or Mark or anyone else agrees or disagrees with you regarding what
was said in your LONG post does not matter. What does matter is that we
musicians are all brothers and sisters living under the same roof (clarinet).
As normal brothers and sisters we occasionally upset a sibling, and as some
can do, when upset by another, we may respond in a not so tactful manner. We
may later regret what we said or did and wish we had handled the situation
differently. We also may have misinterpreted the other persons response be
cause it may have been a tactless, knee-jerk reaction resulting in a verbal
or written communication that was created without due contemplation and
consideration for the other persons feelings. We do not leave home because
our sibling insulted us.
We learn to live and deal with the sibling and help teach him/her how to
correct the behavior.

Mark:

Right or Wrong does not matter. Your earlier statements were felt by Lelia
as negative towards her and maybe insulting. At any rate the offended her.
I read your later post and congratulate you for you attempt to mend fences.

However, it takes two to tango.

Both of you must understand the others needs and requirements. Mark must
edit, Lelia must not run away. Both must understand the other and be more
careful next time. We can bicker all we want but we are still the same
family.

Lelia, we all love you, our doors will always be open for you if you need us.

GaryT

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