Klarinet Archive - Posting 000770.txt from 2000/12

From: "Tony Wakefield" <tony-wakefield@-----.net>
Subj: [kl] More on Difficult People
Date: Thu, 14 Dec 2000 19:05:14 -0500

Of course none of us in here are like that are we Roger? Don`t know why you
posted it!

We have floods again - all over. The bridge over the Thames at Chertsey has
closed. No trains to Chertsey. So my cab had to detour. It took me 1 hour to
do the normal 20 minute journey. The cab driver told me that it`s going to
rain till February. I have the Gatwick Hilton tonight, tomorrow, and
Saturday, if any of you are transferring from Heathrow, come and buy me a
beer. Bring your clarinet - we`ll play some sub-aqua jazz.
Best,
Tony W.

>From Roger Garrett:
> The Hostile Aggressive/The Sherman Tank:
>
> "Sherman Tanks come out charging, not always physically perhaps, but their
> whole demeanor expresses 'attack.' They are abusive, abrupt,
intimidating,
> and, most important, overwhelming. They are abitrary and often arrogant
in
> tone. When criticizing something you've said or done, the seem to attack
> not just the particular behavior but YOU, and they do so in an accusing
> way. They are contemptuous of their victms, considering them to be
> inferior people who deserve to be bullied and disparaged. Some are
> skillful enough to produce the Sherman Tank effect not by bitter tirade
but
> by unrelenting criticism and argument that pushes others to acquiesce
> against their own best judgement. In many situations it is difficult to
> differentiate between useful persistance and overbearing, railroading
> behavior. That is why Sherman Tanks who have developed a modicum of
> smoothness often have been able to attain positions of authority and
> power. Having learned to attack and to follow through as well, Sherman
> Tanks posses tremendous power in interpersonal situations. Such power
> comes largely from the typical responses their behavior
> arouses: confusion, mental or physical flight, or a sense of helpless
> frustration that leads o tears or tantrumlike rage."
>
> Of course, people don't really all fit into one description, but it is
kind
> of interesting to read someone's classification of behaviors.........
>
> 10" of snow on the ground. Fun, Fun, Fun!
>
> Sincerely,
> Roger Garrett

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