Klarinet Archive - Posting 000740.txt from 2000/12

From: "Tony Wakefield" <tony-wakefield@-----.net>
Subj: [kl] S.C.A.M.P. Members
Date: Wed, 13 Dec 2000 23:37:48 -0500

I`m sorry Roger,
I got my knickers in a twist. I thought, (when I perhaps shouldn`t have)
that you had received <another> one liner from another direction. I did in
fact see the one you have just informed me of in it`s original setting. So I
misunderstood in this instance. You may go back to your Nintendo now - sorry
I interrupted you. "What a silly man <I> am"!

Your extracts look very interesting tho`. I think I`ve seen something very
similar in the English bookshops. But apart from your book, don`t we have an
absolute, - I`ll use this appropriate collective term - <garbage> of books
in the bookshops these days. From "Self Help" to " Help Yourself". Adolf
Hitler would have had a "ball" (pun intended). He would have certainly
exhausted his supply of matches, (fire-lighters?). But on this occasion I
think I would have supported him. And that reminds me of this - - - -

I was telling someone only 2 days ago of all the light and middle of the
road orchestrations which are still being held in the BBC music libraries,
which are in fact all now unused. The BBC had, up to 10 years ago, several
house light orchestras and bands, all of which are now defunct. Yet I often
wonder about those scores. I have approached the Musician`s Union with a
view to getting them interested, after what happened at EMI Music
Publishing. During my tenure there, which lasted 8 years, these orchestras
were gradually going to the wall. What did EMI do with <their> library of
hand written scores? They incinerated them, to make room for more office
space, then made me redundant. That`s beside the point tho`. I intend to
follow up just what commitment the Union can sustain, as I`m sure when
future developers discover those basement libraries of the BBC, and that
they are holding 1000s of unused scores, someone will come up with the same
"brainwave"!. Some of the music might sound a little dated, but there are
scores on those dusty shelves having been written by some of the music
world`s finest writers. Billy May, Robert Farnon to name but two. It must be
that the BBC will want rid of them at some stage, and if I can re-direct
them into some university(s) or college(s) before that happens, then perhaps
that might help in the preservation of this music.
A quick plug if I may? - - - -My arrangements of Christmas music has just
been released on C.D. here in U.K. performed by (for the brass followers)
The Brighouse and Rastrick Band. They are a comparatively world renown brass
band, which has won the British Championship competitions many times. They
are amateur, like all brass bands in U.K. are. But they can "pack a punch"
when they want to. We spent a whole day recording, 3 years ago - yes it`s
only <just> reached the shelves. I was fortunate to have all my music
recorded in the morning when lips were fresh. Towards the end of the day, we
had to use several "drop in " techniques, due to occasional split notes.
Some very nice playing indeed tho`. And their music stands were all over
the place!

On a final note, we have another brass band who toured America only 6/7
years ago. They were forced to use their company name for the tour, which
was, at that time John Foster and Sons. America didn`t take kindly to their
more familiar name here in U.K. The "Black Dyke" Band!

Is the brass band movement as alive in America as the wind band? Stupid
question I s`pose on a clarinet list.

Still, - - - - - Happy Yuletide every one!
Tony W.

----- Original Message -----
From: <rgarrett@-----.edu>
Subject: Re: [kl] Difficult People (was Roger Speaks)

> At 06:46 PM 12/13/2000 +0000, you wrote:
> >Another one-liner? What did it say? - you must tell us - please!
> ><And> who wrote it - - - -
>
>
> My response is long (although not as long as others on the list!!)......so
> delete if you don't want to read it or are not interested.
>
> The one-liner said:
>
> "What a silly man you are."
>
> Today, while cleaning house in preparation for parents arriving,
Christmas,
> etc., I ran across a book I had purchased back in the early '90s entitled,
> "Coping with Difficult People" by Robert M. Bramson, Ph.D. Ten years ago
I
> worked with a colleague in my university who was very difficult to get
> along with (he has since left thankfully!!!). I saw the book and hoped to
> find some answers. In it there are several descriptors that are helpful
in
> labeling people who always seem to cause trouble for others. The book is
> very interesting - and lots of fun to read - especially the part where the
> author suggests a person can be labeled with two or more of these
> descriptors. Of course, then the author suggests ways to deal with people
> as labeled by one or more descriptors. One of the descriptors is called
> the "Bulldozer," characterized by a know-it-all approach, and another was
> called the "Sniper." Here are a few excerpts:
>
> "Bulldozers have in common with nondifficult people a strong sense that
the
> accumulation and ordering of facts and knowledge can provide stability in
a
> relatively whimsical world. Because Bulldozers believe that most of the
> power to affect their own lives resides in them, they tend to see the
ideas
> and formulations of others as irrelevant to their own purposes. The
> "know-it-all" quality that seemed appropriate and equated with strength in
> their parents has become associated with both superiority and certainty of
> knowledge. The know-it-all wants you to recognize he knows everything
> there is to know about anything worth knowing. There is a tone of
absolute
> certainty, of sureness beyond mortal doubt, that, often without conscious
> intent, leaves others feeling like objects of condescension. Most
> frustrating of all is that these insufferable paragons of logic often turn
> out to be absolutely right. Thus, they often leave others feeling inept,
> confused, or stupid. Bulldozers not only make [others] feel resentful,
> they also often elicit resistant, self-defeating behavior from them.
> Bulldozers leave little room for anyone's judgements, creativity, or
> resourcefulness. When things go wrong, Bulldozers often see the fault as
> lying with those incompetents (like you and me) who were responsible for
> things going wrong. Not all experts are Know-It-Alls. Experts are people
> who know a great deal about a particular topic and can use that knowledge
> to solve practical problems. They are often people of impressive
humility."
>
> "Snipers do not come crashing down on you. They maintain a cover, if
often
> thin or transparent, from behind which they take pot shots at you. Their
> weapons are hidden in snowballs: innuendos, sotto voce remarks,
> not-too-subtle digs, nonplayful teasing, and the like. The chosen
> recipients are struck by well-placed verbal missiles, high-powered enough
> to hurt. but the attack is accompanied by other signals that say,
'Pretend
> that what I'm doing is nice or neutral, or that you don't even hear
> me.' Snipers have a very strong sense of how others ought to think and
> act. They often have firm views of what can be done to solve the problems
> that interfere with their own personal goals [or others]. However, since
> their 'I'm superior' orientation tends to interfere with seeing things
from
> others' perspectives, what snipers expect from [others] is often
unrealistic."
>
> Now, Mr. Wakefield, who do YOU think wrote the one liner???
>
> This post was respectfully submitted by "The Silly Man" - an honorary
> member of S.C.A.M.P. (those of you who are also members know what that
is).
>
> LOLROF. It's snowing today - I really love a good snow storm!
>
> Best wishes,
> Roger Garrett

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