Klarinet Archive - Posting 000897.txt from 2000/02

From: klar-ANN-ette H Satterfield <klarann@-----.com>
Subj: Re: [kl] excellence & perfection
Date: Thu, 24 Feb 2000 10:22:04 -0500

On Thu, 24 Feb 2000 02:12:14 -0500 Keith <100012.1302@-----.com>
writes:
><on perfectionism>
>>I have a friend who needs to do all the reading possible on this. I
shall
>>like to buy some books for him. He has attained so much at so many
points
>>only to crush himself when he was on the verge of sharing his
brilliance,
>>as he strived to do the impossible.
>
><

>It is a very difficult habit to change, and in twenty years of senior
>management, in university and industry, I don't think I have
>ever succeeded in reforming a perfectionist.

It is difficult to change. Family, friends, bosses cannot reform
people.
When the person decides himself to change, amazing things can happen.
Making changes calls for a paradoxical combination of persistance and
compassion.
>
> If your friend is in his 20s, maybe. Time
>management books are probably the most useful - he should
>pick one that he likes the look of (they all say much the same).
>Covey's "7 habits of highly effective people" works for some.

Covey's "7 habits of highly effective people" is good.
Yes, many of the books say the same things, just like most clarinetists
say good breath support is essential to fine playing.

An article reprinted in local paper from the NYTimes titled "Incompetent
People Fly High on Own Hot Air" by Erica Goode reporting on research by
Dr. David A. Dunning and Justin Kruger. One of the results of the
studies is that competent people tend to underrate their own competence,
but are able to reassess with reliable feedback. And among the missing
pieces for incompetence is the ability to recognize shortcomings.

Learned Optimism by ?Seligman is a good explanation of thinking patterns,
and ways to change those patterns. Included in the book is a chapter
when pessimism is justified!

Optimism need not be blind(incompetent) but simply carries the assumption
that one can learn from one's mistakes.

While this is not-directly-related-to-clarinet information, i deleted
the original post so i don't know who to send this direct.
Besides, these concepts and attitudes work for improving clarinet and
other music skills.

annhall

~Ann H Satterfield~
Clarinet player and teacher

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