Klarinet Archive - Posting 000247.txt from 1998/07

From: "Jennifer McKenna" <mai_lin@-----.com>
Subj: Re: [kl] what am I going to do?
Date: Fri, 10 Jul 1998 21:14:30 -0400

Unfortunatly all of that is difficult to do when your living at home. I
can't claim independancy if I'm still living at home. I don't know what
I'll do but I'll eventually figure it out...Thanx for understanding!

Jennifer McKenna

>Reply-To: klarinet@-----.org
>To: klarinet@-----.org
>Date: Sun, 5 Jul 1998 22:03:11 EDT
>From: pollyg@-----. Gulakowski)
>Subject: Re: [kl] what am I going to do?
>
>P: It is possible to become an emancipated minor and put yourself
>through college. I'm not sure how, but I have a friend who did it
years
>ago when his father threw him out of the house at 15. He finished high
>school and went on for his Business degree - all before the age of 21.
>He had financial aid and worked while he was in college full time.
>
>My heart goes out to you. I keep threatening my kids with community
>college (I'll have three in college in the fall) but I don't mean it.
It
>could, however, be an option. Get the general/required courses there
and
>you'll be ready to go back to a four year when the time comes.
>
>Paulette
>
>
>On Sun, 05 Jul 1998 10:53:11 PDT "Jennifer McKenna"
<mai_lin@-----.com>
>writes:
>>Thankyou very much for the time you took to answer my question.
>>I understand that it is not all his fault. I see his point of view. I
>>know that having to pay for college is a difficult thing, and that he
>>still has to live. I just don't understand why he won't fill out the
>>financial aid forms so that I can try and get free money....i know he
>>doesn't know anything about this, he knows as much as I do. And I
>>don't
>>know how to work through all of this, it is very overwhelming. I'm
>>still
>>trying to sort through all of this myself, let alone trying to explain
>>
>>it to another person :)
>>As far as my playing goes, I'm going to try and find a local group
>>that
>>I can play in for the rest of the year....try and keep my self esteem
>>up.
>>thanks again for the time you took, it makes me feel good that people
>>care
>>
>>jennifer mckenna
>>
>>>Reply-To: klarinet@-----.org
>>>Date: Wed, 01 Jul 1998 11:38:10 -0400
>>>To: klarinet@-----.org
>>>From: Kenneth Wolman <kwolman@-----.com>
>>>Subject: Re: [kl] what am I going to do?
>>>
>>>Re: Jennifer's problem. Jennifer, the first thing NOT to do is get
>>down on
>>>yourself. You did not create this situation. Your father may not
>>even
>>be
>>>"to blame": the motto "shit happens" is not a clich@-----. I know, this
>>
>>is eas=
>>>y
>>>to say, right? Wrong: it is not easy to say because I have been to
>>places
>>>similar. Being unemployed for a year, and in the last year starting
>>to
>>>recover from the breakup of my marriage. These are not simply
>>"events,"
>>>they are more like disasters. Yes, on the same level as what you're
>>going
>>>through now.
>>>
>>>The feeling of loneliness is dreadful. Especially when you wake up
>>at
>>4 AM
>>>and wonder what the hell you're going to do next.
>>>
>>>I don't know if you have personal contacts in Massachusetts, what
>>your
>>>religious convictions are, etc., etc. Having people to talk to is
>>critical
>>>at a time like this. Friends, a priest or minister (I assume from
>>the
>>name
>>>McKenna that you're not Jewish, so don't need a rabbi:-), family
>>members
>>>who are not directly involved. Don't hide, don't feel or ACT ashamed
>>
>>of
>>>what's happened, don't treat yourself like a social outcast or
>>pariah.
>>It
>>>is all to easy to get into this kind of trap. You're going through a
>>>hugely rough time.
>>>
>>>And don't stop playing. You love music. You love the clarinet and,
>>let us
>>>hope, it loves you back. Music isn't just what one of Shakespeare's
>>>characters called it..."the food of love"...it's the food of
>>SELF-love
>>or
>>>self-esteem, it's soul comfort, it's something that can get you out
>>of
>>>yourself and act as a kind of catharsis. Don't worry if you're not
>>>sounding like Emma Johnson this week. Just play the thing because
>>you
>>HAVE
>>>to.
>>>
>>>Ken
>>>
>>>Kenneth Wolman Information Technology Morgan
>>Stanley Inc.
>>>750 Seventh Avenue New York,
>NY 212-762-1685
>>> My unpaid life: http://www.geocities.com/SoHo/Gallery/1649
>>> "I only wish I could write with both hands, so as not to forget
>>> one thing while I am saying another." -- St. Teresa of Avila
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