Klarinet Archive - Posting 000080.txt from 1998/07

From: "Jennifer McKenna" <mai_lin@-----.com>
Subj: Re: [kl] what am I going to do?
Date: Sun, 5 Jul 1998 13:53:11 -0400

Thankyou very much for the time you took to answer my question.
I understand that it is not all his fault. I see his point of view. I
know that having to pay for college is a difficult thing, and that he
still has to live. I just don't understand why he won't fill out the
financial aid forms so that I can try and get free money....i know he
doesn't know anything about this, he knows as much as I do. And I don't
know how to work through all of this, it is very overwhelming. I'm still
trying to sort through all of this myself, let alone trying to explain
it to another person :)
As far as my playing goes, I'm going to try and find a local group that
I can play in for the rest of the year....try and keep my self esteem
up.
thanks again for the time you took, it makes me feel good that people
care

jennifer mckenna

>Reply-To: klarinet@-----.org
>Date: Wed, 01 Jul 1998 11:38:10 -0400
>To: klarinet@-----.org
>From: Kenneth Wolman <kwolman@-----.com>
>Subject: Re: [kl] what am I going to do?
>
>Re: Jennifer's problem. Jennifer, the first thing NOT to do is get
down on
>yourself. You did not create this situation. Your father may not even
be
>"to blame": the motto "shit happens" is not a clich@-----. I know, this
is eas=
>y
>to say, right? Wrong: it is not easy to say because I have been to
places
>similar. Being unemployed for a year, and in the last year starting to
>recover from the breakup of my marriage. These are not simply
"events,"
>they are more like disasters. Yes, on the same level as what you're
going
>through now.
>
>The feeling of loneliness is dreadful. Especially when you wake up at
4 AM
>and wonder what the hell you're going to do next.
>
>I don't know if you have personal contacts in Massachusetts, what your
>religious convictions are, etc., etc. Having people to talk to is
critical
>at a time like this. Friends, a priest or minister (I assume from the
name
>McKenna that you're not Jewish, so don't need a rabbi:-), family
members
>who are not directly involved. Don't hide, don't feel or ACT ashamed
of
>what's happened, don't treat yourself like a social outcast or pariah.
It
>is all to easy to get into this kind of trap. You're going through a
>hugely rough time.
>
>And don't stop playing. You love music. You love the clarinet and,
let us
>hope, it loves you back. Music isn't just what one of Shakespeare's
>characters called it..."the food of love"...it's the food of SELF-love
or
>self-esteem, it's soul comfort, it's something that can get you out of
>yourself and act as a kind of catharsis. Don't worry if you're not
>sounding like Emma Johnson this week. Just play the thing because you
HAVE
>to.
>
>Ken
>
>Kenneth Wolman Information Technology Morgan Stanley Inc.
>750 Seventh Avenue New York, NY 212-762-1685
> My unpaid life: http://www.geocities.com/SoHo/Gallery/1649
> "I only wish I could write with both hands, so as not to forget
> one thing while I am saying another." -- St. Teresa of Avila
>
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