Klarinet Archive - Posting 000400.txt from 1997/08

From: benevolent1@-----. Horney)
Subj: Re: major decisions
Date: Tue, 12 Aug 1997 01:32:17 -0400

Thank you for your time to consider my problem. My father always said
that he loved getting up for work everyday, and that is the only way to
live. He knew some pretty big movers and shakers, and was assured a
cushy appointment in some Senate office, but he wanted to teach. He said
that even though the work load would be less, there wouldn't be as much
stress, the pay would be MUCH better, and he would be up for a political
endorsement any day, he couldn't sacrifice his love and desire for the
classroom. Even when he was stuck teaching remedial biology and
chemistry and dreaded seeing the kids walk in the class, he knew that he
loved watching them learn one thing. Coming from a kid with absolutely
no experience in life, and only taking my father's advise as the "Gospel
truth," my reaction is to tell you to is to tell you do what you love.
It will augment the quality of your life so much. From what I hear, it
will be really tough. The money is not wonderful, and the hours won't be
as nice, but you, like my dad, will get up everyday and know that you
love what you are doing. You may, in the end, like when you're 78, find a
new career in shoe production, that you may like more, but you will never
wonder "what would have happened." My father also said that his values
changed so much from the time graduated from high school to the time he
got out of the army. He said that for a while, money was a very large
concern for him, then it became his career, and then it was his family.
Only recently he said that his focus became a bit broader, and
encompassing himself and his family, and his happiness. I probably am
not the best person to give advise on life-changing decisions, but all I
can tell you is that it will work out in the end.

Have fun and God bless,

Sarah
benevolent1@-----.com

On Sun, 10 Aug 1997 23:43:08 -0400 (EDT) Ariadne49@-----.com writes:
>hi sarah, i'm noelle. and we have something incommon. i'm sturggling
>with the
>same problem as you are but i'm already entering my junior year of
>college
>and i'm neck high in decisions that i am having a VERY hard time
>making. i
>have decided to graduate with my bachelor's in music performance. now
>here's
>where my problem lies. i love performing so much. the stage is my home
>and i
>know that that is what i REALLY want to do, however i am not willing
>to
>sacrifice financial stability to do so. i am also interested in music
>therapy
>but i'm not quite sure if this is really a stable field either. i
>already
>have 11 private students and i know i love teaching them. however, i
>have
>volunteered for an entire semester at an elementary/middle school as
>the
>clarinet clinician and i KNOW that classroom teaching is NOT for me. i
>don't
>think it would be fair to the students to take that up because of
>money
>purposes. the reasons i don't like classroom teaching is that i don't
>like
>having to discipline more then teach. i also feel that i am to much of
>a
>softy and that i would have a very hard time maintaining discipline
>and that
>i'd let the students walk all over me and then i would go home
>complaining
>about it to everyone else but the students who need to hear it and i
>would
>make everyone miserable. i'm in such a rut because i am afraid that by
>doing
>another job i will be sacrificing my dream because i won't have the
>time to
>dedicate the practcing i need if i want to be a performer. but like i
>said, i
>am TOTALLY not willing to sacrifice financial comfort.... any
>suggestions
>would really be of great appreciation... thank you Noelle
>