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Doublereed Archive - Posting 000077.txt from 2006/09
From: "Kevin H. Moore" <oboetools@-----.com>
Subj: Re: [DR-L] apology
Date: Sun, 17 Sep 2006 16:46:04 -0400
Matthew -
Thank you for your reply. I very much do appreciate your thoughts and
opinions.
On one of your points, I think it's possible things are a little different
in Europe from the way things are here in the US. I've never known audition
results, even information about finalists, to be confidential. Perhaps,
information about the details of how candidates played is highly private,
but results have always been considered public information.
Also, while I do want to be and appear sensitive to the feelings of others,
honestly, it's a little tough to see how one could very justifyably get bent
out of shape about discussion of such things. I mean it's not exactly like
discussion of who is sleeping with whom, for instance.
While I am very sorry to have hurt some feelings, I don't want to be
interpreted as saying that I won't express curiousity regarding job openings
and winners, here on list. The only thing that I might modify is how I do
it. To me, it hardly seems as if that would be totally out of place, here.
Respectfully -
Kevin
----- Original Message -----
From: "Matthew Peaceman" <mpeaceman@-----.de>
> I must say while reading this thread that it occurred to me that:
> 1) Most everyone knows that there are people here on this list who are
> directly and indirectly involved with one or the other orchestras.
> 2) That audtions are legal transactions that stand under strict
> confidentiality.
> 3) that the informal tone of livingroom gossip of this list does not
> give anyone the right to assume that he/she may speak publically of the
> private affairs of others on the list.
> 4) If one finds himself writing something to which he feels the need to
> write a disclaimer such as: "actually I don't know the facts nor am I
> personally involved" then maybe he should consider NOT writing on the
> subject at all. It isn't always clear what might be considered gossip or
> hurtful as opposed to just showing interest. Perhaps asking yourself
> how you might feel about it if you were the subject of the conversation
> BEFORE hitting the send button might spare you and the rest of us from
> more embarrassing apologies...
>
> I am certain that my post will put a little dent in some feelings. I do
> it consciously but without malice. Therefore THIS last sentence is not
> an apology.
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